Dealing with Loneliness – By Dr. Glenn Mollette

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Dealing with Loneliness
By Dr. Glenn Mollette
 
Global health service company Cigna (NYSE: CI) released results from a national survey earlier this month exploring the impact of loneliness in the United States. The survey, conducted in partnership with market research firm, Ipsos, revealed that most American adults are considered lonely. Nearly half of Americans report sometimes or always feeling alone (46 percent) or left out (47 percent).

 

From the Cigna report we learn the following:

 

One in four Americans (27 percent) rarely or never feel as though there are people who really understand them.
Two in five Americans sometimes or always feel that their relationships are not meaningful (43 percent) and that they are isolated from others (43 percent).
One in five people report they rarely or never feel close to people (20 percent) or feel like there are people they can talk to (18 percent).

 

Americans who live with others are less likely to be lonely (average loneliness score of 43.5) compared to those who live alone (46.4). However, this does not apply to single parents/guardians (average loneliness score of 48.2) – even though they live with children, they are more likely to be lonely.

 

Only around half of Americans (53 percent) have meaningful in-person social interactions, such as having an extended conversation with a friend or spending quality time with family, on a daily basis.

 

Generation Z (adults ages 18-22) is the loneliest generation and claims to be in worse health than older generations.

 

Social media use alone is not a predictor of loneliness; respondents defined as very heavy users of social media have a loneliness score (43.5) that is not markedly different from the score of those who never use social media (41.7).

 

Psychcentral.com has some good suggestions on combating loneliness. Loneliness is a feeling and not a fact. Reach out to others. Stop the self-deflating thoughts. Focus on others and less attention on yourself. What you give may come back to you. Find others who have common interests. Always show up when meeting with others. Don’t stand people up. Be interested in other people. Listen to what they are saying and doing. Take the focus off of you. Be kind. Some people are rude but most people will respond to kindness. Being mean, rude and a jerk will earn you a reputation you don’t want. Find a group with whom to connect such as church groups, exercise groups, music groups, Alcoholics Anonymous, sewing or baking groups or folks who simply gather for coffee.

 

Talking, listening, kindness, showing interest in others, participating and helping others will help you in overcoming loneliness.

 

Glenn Mollette is an American Syndicated Columnist and Author. He is the author of eleven books and read in all fifty states. Enjoy Books By Glenn Mollette at Amazon.com  
This column does not necessarily reflect the view of any organization, institution or this paper or media source.
 

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  • Anita Savio

    I read Glenn Mollette’s column in our local newspaper with dismay. Yes, Tijuana suffers from a great deal of crime and human desperation: drugs and drug violence, prostitution, drunkenness, etc. Of course most of this crime is in service to Americans who visit the place to satisfy their low needs, and Americans who buy the drugs from cartels that exist to serve the immense U.S. market.
    Yet where Mollette saw only ugliness, I see there is hope and love, too. According to the Centro Mexicano de Filantropía (Mexican Center for Philanthropy), there are 711 registered nonprofit organizations in Tijuana that provide a variety of caring services to Tijuana residents.
    My paternal grandparents immigrated to the U.S. from Sicily due to their simple yearning to provide a better life for their families. Every year, hundreds of immigrants risk their lives in a dangerous border crossing for the same reason.
    Mr. Mollette, I ask you to cast out the ugly mote that is within YOUR heart, and find it within yourself to sympathize with the human yearnings of people who are just like us.